How do you deal with this? Trust shattered!?

Yes sweetie but you wont like it. My ex was the same and not only him a few where. She wants to be noticed she wants people to want her and not to mention she thinks she can get away with it to.Now the hidden #s is a big one. You don't do that , you don't hide things like that especially from your man. Look this is so hard but trust and believe you will never trust her and that's the truth this will be an on going thing for as long as your together .There are to many mess ups on her part.But she doesn't want to lose you for one bc then she would be alone... it would be an official title then i mean.....And that would hurt her esteem. and for 2nd you said you buy alot of things for her, well who would leave that security? Not many. So take this how ever you want but I wish the best for you and remember its not fare to hurt on the inside when your suppose to be in love.Love is kind.Head up shin out and good luck